Life’s Fatal Flaw

An Inspired Approach

Notice the moments Notice the moments

As I sit in the terminal waiting for the plane to begin boarding I watch all the people moving about.  Our expressions reveal more than we realize.  I see moments of complete joy with faces illuminated from within.  I feel the weight some carry of stress and worry.  I sense the sadness of those who are leaving a loved one behind.  We experience life in moments. We get lost in the happy ones and sometimes allow ourselves to drown in the sad ones.  We seem to spend so much time connecting via technology that we lose the human connections which surround us.  When alone we look to the past for happier times or stress over the future.  We didn’t take time to record our memories; we didn’t slow down enough to etch them in our hearts. They pass as quickly as they came.  We assume there will always…

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If we couldn’t handle it , we wouldn’t be going through it. (under construction)

Listen… Trust

Kaoutar Chahbane

Salam dear friends,

We live each day thinking about the last day… and it’s wrong; so wrong !!
Let’s face it, many of us do not trust themselves. We do not want to listen to what we have to say, we prefer listening to what others have to say, and again, it’s wrong. We regret doing things. We underestimate what we can do. we convince ourselves that we can’t do it…. It is WRONG…
But , it has to change… now or never 🙂


I said before that we do not give the chance to ourselves to be better. But, it can be changed. There is a little voice in our head, a very strong voice which tell us what we have to do, what we can do, and how we can do it. This voice need to be listened to.Our inner voice can be a guide to a life full…

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Understanding Changes Everything

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Understanding Changes EverythingApproximately 1 in 5 Newfoundlanders and Labradorians will struggle with mental health or addictions each year. Stigma causes many of them not to seek help and also deeply affects every facet of their life from education and employment opportunities to friends, family and loved ones. The provincial Department of Health and Community Services has just launched a three year campaign to combat stigma and open up the conversation around mental health and addictions.

This issue was already gaining momentum when we began our work. We wanted to build on the success of campaigns like Bell Let’s Talk and continue the conversation. The facts are staggering:

  • 1 in 5 of us will experience mental health or addictions issues in our lifetime. So if you’re not directly affected, someone you know is. This affects everyone.
  • Stigma kills. Compassion heals. That’s a fact. Stigma causes people to suffer in silence, sometimes with tragic ends.
  • Mental…

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Growing up honesty was not a value we practiced in our home.  I learned from a very young age not to let the “outside” world know what was really happening in our “inside” world at home.   It was something I did on a daily basis & all throughout my day for that matter.

As I grew older , I continued to take this same sense of “dishonesty” with me wherever I went.  It was how I was raised, it’s what I thought was not only right , but okay.  Needless to say, this type of life only lead me to much darker places.  I lied to get what I wanted, when I wanted it .  I lied about being sick, so I didn’t have to do this or that; my lying became such a habit that I even began believing the lies I was telling to everyone else.

During my youth years, my mom and us 4 kids began attending church on a regular basis.  I was so insecure and so afraid.  I grew up in the old testament bible beating you upside the head type of church and I just knew God was going to kill me before I left that building, on so many occasions.  I mean if I was going to hell because I lied, then I might as well hang it up and if kissing a boy gave you a disease and struck you to your death, then I should have already been gone; Yes it was very confusing.  Then bring in the factor that my father sexually abused me and well, I just gave up at that point.  I was more afraid to walk in a church building than I was not to.  I wanted to believe with all of my heart, I really did; but I was too afraid.  I didn’t see God as loving and caring; I saw Him as someone who was waiting to zap me at any moment and send me straight to hell.  I knew that I had not lived up to any Godly Standards in my life, much less the way I was living at the time.  I was more afraid than comfortable with the entire God Thing.

The thoughts and fears and guilt became so overbearing that I chose to run the other way; to completely get away from God; I did whatever I could to make Him “Zap” me, so to speak; I started using the drugs and alcohol to numb all the confusion and pain; That’s when the grips of addiction took hold and swept me away.  I lived in a hell like I never even imagined was possible and the darkness within my heart; well to this day I don’t even like to speak of it.  I hated everyone, only liked you to get what I could from you, & most of all I hated myself with everything I had within me.  I hated the way I looked, acted, talked, walked, slept, played, did homework, & anything else I could think of.  I envied everyone around me,; what I truly wanted was to go with Alice into a rabbit hole, but I didn’t want to come back.

Today my life is completely different.  I found a new way to live ; one that took my life in the direction I thought only others could enjoy.  It didn’t happen overnight; I had to face many fears along the way, the scariest being, have to  face feel my feelings.  Yes that one nearly got the best of me.  However , with a Sponsor in my pocket, God on my side, & Hope in my heart – I kept going One Day at a Time.  I not only learned to be honest, I learned one of the most important values in life; I learned to be honest with myself; That’s when my true healing began.

Now I am not perfect by any means, but I sure am better than I use to be.  I still have to keep myself accountable & work my program on a daily basis; but the most precious gift of all is the relationship I have with God; He’s my best friend, my provider , and my reason for living.   Now if that’s not a far cry from the way I use to be I don’t know what is.  I enjoy my life today & helping others is a passion that consumes my entire being.

I don’t know what you may be going through, I don’t know what’s on your mind, or what you may be suffering from; But I do know there’s a way out of  the misery and pain.  There’s a way to live life to the fullest and there’s a way to find peace & happiness; You just have to be willing to take that first step in the right direction.  Reach out to someone and share what’s going on with you on the inside; Share as honestly as you can and allow them to help you learn how to take the next step towards freedom.  Whether it’s an addiction, depression, abuse, fear, or just hopelessness you are struggling with, You Can find the help you are looking for ; But whether you find it or not, is a choice that only you can make.

((((hugs & love))))



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