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When I first began Recovery, it was both exciting and exhilarating at the same time. Everything was new, the fellowship, new friends, camp outs, the beach conventions, my family was beginning to have faith in me once again and most importantly, I was living life without the use of drugs and I was loving it.
Then that “pink cloud” lifted and I was bored with the same old routine; It just seemed like something was missing and I couldn’t figure out what it was. I became isolated, depressed, and confused. I was at the point to where if I didn’t do something, I was headed back to those dark places, I had worked so hard to get out of. That’s when I ran across an amazing woman, Cheryl , who is one of the founders of Waves of Gratitude; She helped me to see that I could live my dreams, that anything was possible, I just had to take the first step. She also would not allow me to talk negative about myself or anything I was a part of for that matter; and before I knew it I was writing a book, creating my own Facebook Page (Wings of Encouragement), taking classes and a four-hour exam to become a counselor. It was amazing at what that one step turned into, in so many areas of my life.
So when I get back to that feeling of being bored with the same old routine, I first remember how far I have come, Second, I write down at least 5 goals that I want to accomplish and keep the list to where I can read it on a daily basis, and Third, I take a step towards those goals, no matter how small it may be. There are also times I just change my routine up a little; I may go camping, dance like crazy to music (which is very therapeutic for myself), spend time with some friends, take a small overnight trip, and yes sometimes I even start working out, but that one , well although I know I should, it’s usually the last resort, lol.
My point is if you are becoming bored with the same old same old, then spice it up some; start a new project, change your routine around, do things that make you laugh, just go and be silly a little while. You will be surprised at how much a small change can change your entire perspective & mood , for that matter.
(((hugs & love))))
Guilt and Shame can keep you stuck in the past and fearful of the future, if not dealt with in the appropriate manner.
In Recovery we go by our 8th & 9th Steps, which first tell us to make a list of all the persons we have harmed , then to become willing to make amends , to the best of our ability. This does not mean that we grovel or crawl, begging forgiveness; it means what it simply says, We do it to the best of our ability. We approach the person and or place, as long as it does not cause harm to ourselves’ or others, and we don’t say I’m Sorry (for they have heard that quite often and it doesn’t mean much to them at all) we admit our wrongs, ask what we can do to make it right, and then we go out there and make a living amends, which means don’t continue the same behaviors that put us in such a predicament to begin with.
It’s not about begging for forgiveness; It’s about owning up to your part and being willing to make it right; Whether or not they forgive us is not the point; The point is that we faced something that we never thought we would be able to; that we are finally taking responsibility for our wrongful acts and are willing to not only make it right, but to live differently in the future.
Most of the time they do forgive us, but sometimes they don’t and that’s okay. Each person is entitled to their feelings and have their own process of healing; But now we can hold our heads up high, looking the world in the eye, for we have completely and thoroughly examined our wrongs and made them right.
(((hugs & love))))
This is one of our latest new items; New Color and New Charm; We also now have Cross Bracelets and 2 new charms;
I am so excited about this new Journey I am on; Life is so good and to be able to help people and write and have my own line of Inspirational Jewelry & More Store – well it’s truly a blessing.
Don’t ever give up on your dreams, no matter what your age may be; You deserve the best that life and love have to offer; so go for those dreams and don’t allow anyone to hold you back.
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In our daily lives we have many petty frustrations; whether it’s trying to tie our child’s shoelaces, getting kids to school on time, traffic jams, lines at the grocery store, or a number of other things. If we aren’t careful we will find ourselves’ going through these times with clenched teeth, becoming angry at ourselves’ , because we weren’t able to handle these setbacks as well as we thought we should; that sort of attitude turns into more frustrations and before you know it everything we touch is going wrong.
Choose to take a breath and Talk to God instead of beating yourself up. Go ahead and try it; When you become frustrated and find yourself not coping well , reach out in prayer for God’s help; You will be surprised at how your mindset turns around to a much more positive one and before you even realize it , you are more calm and patient than you were before; Go ahead Take a Deep Breath & Talk to God.
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Rejection hurts and it scars many people for a life time; according to who and what the rejection was over. However what hurts worse than anything is rejecting ourselves’.
Whatever the reason my be, we have to face the pains once inflicted on us, due to rejection, or we will never be able to be able to accept ourselves’ fully. It can be painful to face such matters, but if we keep pushing through the pain, feel our feelings, and free them; we can move on to a much better place. One that involves freedom from self-rejection. There’s nothing wrong with not liking something about yourself; you have to know something’s wrong before you can change it. But, trying to be someone who we aren’t, just to gain the acceptance of others is not healthy at all.
Be yourself, if there’s something you want to change; then go ahead, Change it; But don’t change it to be like or for someone else, change it because it betters you and it’s something you want to do.
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Sometimes we just have to let go and go with the flow;
It’s much easier said that done, but when we get in the obsessive behavior of trying to figure everything out, we will not only cause matters to become worse, we will lose our focus in the process.
Have you ever tried to remember a character’s name in a particular movie? You try for days to re-call that name and then finally when you’ve about driven yourself crazy, you just give up, thinking the answer will never come. Then one day, out of no where the name just pops into your head. It’s because you quit trying so hard. That’s the way life is; we try to figure out what we should or shouldn’t do, we try to figure out all the tiniest of details, only to find ourselves’ moving farther and farther away from what it is we are searching for.
When I get to this place in my life, I just have to “Choose” to believe that God has it under control and in the mean time I also “Choose” to just go with the flow. Then tension that sets up inside of me, from trying to find the answers, keeps me from enjoying life all together. So I take a deep breath, say a prayer, and get out there and do something fun; I continue to take care of my responsibilities, but I no longer allow the How’s, What if’s, Should I’s, to rule my life. I just do the next right thing and choose to go about my life with the “Easy Does It” attitude. Then before I have even recognized it, just the right door opens, or closes and new opportunities present themselves’ and I am right where I need to be.
Yes it’s hard to approach life with the Easy Does It attitude, but it’s also far less stressful than worrying about every little detail and causing ourselves’ unnecessary stress and tension. So if it’s just for today, then do it just for today, but try giving yourself a break and take it easy for a while; Your answers will come and no amount of pushing or forcing is going to make them get here any quicker then they are supposed to ; it’s only going to cause you to miss them when they do present themselves’.
(((hugs & love))))
“You’re braver than you believe; Stronger than you seem; And smarter than you think”
There is nothing wrong with feeling sad about something that has or is going on in your life; Actually there’s nothing wrong with feeling sorry for yourself every once in a while; Just don’t unpack and stay in that place for long. Sometimes I have to make myself get up and do something, no matter how small of a task it may be. For instance, once when I was going through some very difficult times, I had to force myself to brush my teeth; yes that’s what I said, brush my teeth. The self-pity had turned into full-blown depression and the task of waking up seemed to often be, more than I could handle. I am grateful to say that eventually, with the help of friends and family, I was able to crawl out of that dark place; but one thing I am not confused about is that if I don’t continue to do what it is I need to do, spiritually, mentally, & physically, it won’t be long until I am right back in that dark place.
Yes, it’s hard sometimes and pushing myself is not something that comes easy for me. However, I have noticed that when I just look at one small task, focus on it and not worry about the whole picture; I tend to get more accomplished. So if you’ve been struggling with being struck, down, or depressed; try taking a very small task and working to accomplish it. Who knows you might be able to see it through to the end, or even better it may ignite that spark within you that seems to have faded away.
(((hugs & love))))
In Recovery, the “H.O.W.’S” of the Program are ; Honesty , Open-mindedness, & Willingness; which hold true not just for those in a 12-Step Program, but life in general.
There are many 12-Step Programs available all across the world today ; from Addiction to Grief, to Co-dependency, to Over-Eaters , and so much more; Whatever the group may be, the primary focus is on Honesty, Open-mindedness, & Willingness, for without these 3 nothing is going to change.
So whatever you are going through in life, remember that until you are able to get Honest with Yourself, you will be unable to be honest with others; Until you are Open-minded enough to take suggestions from those who want to help, you will remain the same and if you don’t become Willing to do the above, you will never find a new way to live.
Honesty, Open-minded, & Willing are a must , no matter what you are facing in life; for without them, there are no changes and if there are no changes, things remain the same, or they could get worse.
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