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This site has been formed to provide an atmosphere of encouragement, inspiration, hope & positive thinking. I have a passion for reaching out to others and sharing the experiences of my life; with the intention of spreading hope to all those who may be feeling like Life has no purpose, that all hope is gone Life is full of many wonderful opportunities of which are available to us all; we just have to find the courage to take that first step. We are here for all who want to join us as we share our experience, strength, & hope with others; so that they too may find their own true value, purpose, courage, & strength. We are not based on a religion; When we put aside our opinions and share from our hearts we become United in a powerful way and then we begin to see how we are truly all connected. I am a Recovering Addict who was a prisoner to drugs for many years, I am excited about allowing you to know where I use to be and where I am today. After living 14 years with an alcoholic father, I was a wounded child, who had been through the horrors of sexual, physical, mental, emotional, & spiritual abuse. I carried this pain with me all through my life and caused many people great harm; especially those closest to me. It wasn't until I was older that I started looking to drugs for my relief. I just wanted the pain to go away. I began hurting the people that meant the most to me and taking from so many. Finallly I hit , what we call rock-bottom in recovery, and I ended up in jail. This was the breaking point for my husband. He was finally at his end and he could not take it any more; it was either get help or I had to go; He was done, and I knew in my heart he meant what he was saying. Although this was one of the most painful times of my life, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Since I have been in recovery I have grown in many areas of my life. There are no words to describe how wonderful my family has been; my husband, 2 sons, & mother have been by my side all the way; showing their support in all that I've had to do; I have the most amazing freinds and they are always there when I need them, especially my Sponsor. I now have this blog , a facebook page, writing a book, working on some poetry, and I have become a Professional Alcohol and Drug Addiction Counselor. I am presently working for a Treatment Facility and finally feel as though I am doing what I was called to do. My life is so full and I live it to the best of my ability. I know that I have to take care of me first and all else will fall into place. I am excited about our facebook community which has grown by leaps and bounds . Wings of Encouragement has become a place of safety for many and one where we share our feelings and help one another through difficult times thru inspirational quotes, posts, photos ,and personal experiences. I am currently writing my book, and my poetry. I currently also on twitter (WOEWendyBox) and learning of new ways to spread the news about Wings of Encouragement. I hope that you find what you are looking for on our page; if not there are so many other wonderful pages which bring positivity, encouragement, hope and love; You will surely find one that meets your needs. I often share many pages so check them out. Thank you for taking the time to read about Wings of Encouragement; may you find the encouragement and peace you are searching for; knowing that one step at a time we are changing lives. Sincerely, Wendy J. Box

Life’s Fatal Flaw


An Inspired Approach

Notice the moments Notice the moments

As I sit in the terminal waiting for the plane to begin boarding I watch all the people moving about.  Our expressions reveal more than we realize.  I see moments of complete joy with faces illuminated from within.  I feel the weight some carry of stress and worry.  I sense the sadness of those who are leaving a loved one behind.  We experience life in moments. We get lost in the happy ones and sometimes allow ourselves to drown in the sad ones.  We seem to spend so much time connecting via technology that we lose the human connections which surround us.  When alone we look to the past for happier times or stress over the future.  We didn’t take time to record our memories; we didn’t slow down enough to etch them in our hearts. They pass as quickly as they came.  We assume there will always…

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If we couldn’t handle it , we wouldn’t be going through it.


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Listen… Trust


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Salam dear friends,

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We live each day thinking about the last day… and it’s wrong; so wrong !!
Let’s face it, many of us do not trust themselves. We do not want to listen to what we have to say, we prefer listening to what others have to say, and again, it’s wrong. We regret doing things. We underestimate what we can do. we convince ourselves that we can’t do it…. It is WRONG…
But , it has to change… now or never 🙂

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I said before that we do not give the chance to ourselves to be better. But, it can be changed. There is a little voice in our head, a very strong voice which tell us what we have to do, what we can do, and how we can do it. This voice need to be listened to.Our inner voice can be a guide to a life full…

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Understanding Changes Everything


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Understanding Changes EverythingApproximately 1 in 5 Newfoundlanders and Labradorians will struggle with mental health or addictions each year. Stigma causes many of them not to seek help and also deeply affects every facet of their life from education and employment opportunities to friends, family and loved ones. The provincial Department of Health and Community Services has just launched a three year campaign to combat stigma and open up the conversation around mental health and addictions.

This issue was already gaining momentum when we began our work. We wanted to build on the success of campaigns like Bell Let’s Talk and continue the conversation. The facts are staggering:

  • 1 in 5 of us will experience mental health or addictions issues in our lifetime. So if you’re not directly affected, someone you know is. This affects everyone.
  • Stigma kills. Compassion heals. That’s a fact. Stigma causes people to suffer in silence, sometimes with tragic ends.
  • Mental…

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Honesty


Growing up honesty was not a value we practiced in our home.  I learned from a very young age not to let the “outside” world know what was really happening in our “inside” world at home.   It was something I did on a daily basis & all throughout my day for that matter.

As I grew older , I continued to take this same sense of “dishonesty” with me wherever I went.  It was how I was raised, it’s what I thought was not only right , but okay.  Needless to say, this type of life only lead me to much darker places.  I lied to get what I wanted, when I wanted it .  I lied about being sick, so I didn’t have to do this or that; my lying became such a habit that I even began believing the lies I was telling to everyone else.

During my youth years, my mom and us 4 kids began attending church on a regular basis.  I was so insecure and so afraid.  I grew up in the old testament bible beating you upside the head type of church and I just knew God was going to kill me before I left that building, on so many occasions.  I mean if I was going to hell because I lied, then I might as well hang it up and if kissing a boy gave you a disease and struck you to your death, then I should have already been gone; Yes it was very confusing.  Then bring in the factor that my father sexually abused me and well, I just gave up at that point.  I was more afraid to walk in a church building than I was not to.  I wanted to believe with all of my heart, I really did; but I was too afraid.  I didn’t see God as loving and caring; I saw Him as someone who was waiting to zap me at any moment and send me straight to hell.  I knew that I had not lived up to any Godly Standards in my life, much less the way I was living at the time.  I was more afraid than comfortable with the entire God Thing.

The thoughts and fears and guilt became so overbearing that I chose to run the other way; to completely get away from God; I did whatever I could to make Him “Zap” me, so to speak; I started using the drugs and alcohol to numb all the confusion and pain; That’s when the grips of addiction took hold and swept me away.  I lived in a hell like I never even imagined was possible and the darkness within my heart; well to this day I don’t even like to speak of it.  I hated everyone, only liked you to get what I could from you, & most of all I hated myself with everything I had within me.  I hated the way I looked, acted, talked, walked, slept, played, did homework, & anything else I could think of.  I envied everyone around me,; what I truly wanted was to go with Alice into a rabbit hole, but I didn’t want to come back.

Today my life is completely different.  I found a new way to live ; one that took my life in the direction I thought only others could enjoy.  It didn’t happen overnight; I had to face many fears along the way, the scariest being, have to  face feel my feelings.  Yes that one nearly got the best of me.  However , with a Sponsor in my pocket, God on my side, & Hope in my heart – I kept going One Day at a Time.  I not only learned to be honest, I learned one of the most important values in life; I learned to be honest with myself; That’s when my true healing began.

Now I am not perfect by any means, but I sure am better than I use to be.  I still have to keep myself accountable & work my program on a daily basis; but the most precious gift of all is the relationship I have with God; He’s my best friend, my provider , and my reason for living.   Now if that’s not a far cry from the way I use to be I don’t know what is.  I enjoy my life today & helping others is a passion that consumes my entire being.

I don’t know what you may be going through, I don’t know what’s on your mind, or what you may be suffering from; But I do know there’s a way out of  the misery and pain.  There’s a way to live life to the fullest and there’s a way to find peace & happiness; You just have to be willing to take that first step in the right direction.  Reach out to someone and share what’s going on with you on the inside; Share as honestly as you can and allow them to help you learn how to take the next step towards freedom.  Whether it’s an addiction, depression, abuse, fear, or just hopelessness you are struggling with, You Can find the help you are looking for ; But whether you find it or not, is a choice that only you can make.

((((hugs & love))))

Wendy

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