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If we couldn’t handle it , we wouldn’t be going through it. (under construction)


Guilt & Shame

Guilt and Shame can keep you stuck in the past and fearful of the future, if not dealt with in the appropriate manner.

In Recovery we go by our 8th & 9th Steps, which first tell us to make a list of all the persons we have harmed , then to become willing to make amends , to the best of our ability.  This does not mean that we grovel or crawl, begging forgiveness; it means what it simply says, We do it to the best of our ability.  We approach the person and or place, as long as it does not cause harm to ourselves’ or others, and we don’t say I’m Sorry (for they have heard that quite often and it doesn’t mean much to them at all) we admit our wrongs, ask what we can do to make it right, and then we go out there and make a living amends, which means don’t continue the same behaviors that put us in such a predicament to begin with.

It’s not about begging for forgiveness; It’s about owning up to your part and being willing to make it right; Whether or not they forgive us is not the point; The point is that we faced something that we never thought we would be able to; that we are finally taking responsibility for our wrongful acts and are willing to not only make it right, but to live differently in the future.

Most of the time they do forgive us, but sometimes they don’t and that’s okay.  Each person is entitled to their feelings and have their own process of healing; But now we can hold our heads up high, looking the world in the eye, for we have completely and thoroughly examined our wrongs and made them right.

(((hugs & love))))


Family, We may not have it all together but together we have it all




This is one of our latest new items; New Color and New Charm;  We also now have Cross Bracelets and 2 new charms;

I am so excited about this new Journey I am on; Life is so good and to be able to help people and write and have my own line of Inspirational Jewelry & More Store – well it’s truly a blessing.

Don’t ever give up on your dreams, no matter what your age may be;  You deserve the best that life and love have to offer; so go for those dreams and don’t allow anyone to hold you back.

((((hugs & love))))



Take a Deep Breath and Talk to God

In our daily lives we have many petty frustrations; whether it’s trying to tie our child’s shoelaces, getting kids to school on time, traffic jams, lines at the grocery store, or a number of other things.  If we aren’t careful we will find ourselves’ going through these times with clenched teeth, becoming angry at ourselves’ ,  because we weren’t able to handle these setbacks as well as we thought we should; that sort of attitude turns into more frustrations and before you know it everything we touch is going wrong.

Choose to take a breath and Talk to God instead of beating yourself up.  Go ahead and try it; When you become frustrated and find yourself not coping well , reach out in prayer for God’s help; You will be surprised at how your mindset turns around to a much more positive one and before you even realize it , you are more calm and patient than you were before;  Go ahead Take a Deep Breath & Talk to God.

(((hugs & love))))



The Value itself produces the Joy

For years all of my values and morals were non-existent.  I had either shoved them away, choosing not to believe in them any longer or I had decided that I no longer wanted to live being the good girl no more.  When my Values seized to exist, my life went down in a rapid manner; Before long I was acting and acting out in ways that I had once said I would never do.  It took nearly losing my life and being locked up in jail before I realized that something had to change and quick; That’s when I began the Journey of re-evaluating what it was I truly believed.  

Honesty, was the first value I applied back into my life; It was a do or die situation and I knew that if nothing changed then nothing would change; Then I began to add willingness and open-mindedness to my list; Before long Faith, Hope, Perseverance, Courage, Serenity, Surrender and many more values were added.  No matter what I was struggling with those values helped me to get into the solution and soon whatever I was facing got better or at least more tolerable; and before I knew it Joy had returned; But too often we forget that the joy doesn’t come from the external things at all, it comes from the value itself.  

So if things are a bit out of sorts in your life; Get back to the Basics; Get back to the values you once valued and soon you will notice just how much of a difference they truly make.

(((hugs & love))))



Rejection hurts and it scars many people for a life time; according to who and what the rejection was over.  However what hurts worse than anything is rejecting ourselves’.

Whatever the reason my be,  we have to face the pains once inflicted on us, due to rejection, or we will never be able to be able to accept ourselves’ fully.   It can be painful to face such matters, but if we keep pushing through the pain, feel our feelings, and free them; we can move on to a much better place.  One that involves freedom from self-rejection.  There’s nothing wrong with not liking something about yourself; you have to know something’s wrong before you can change it.  But, trying to be someone who we aren’t, just to gain the acceptance of others is not healthy at all.

Be yourself, if there’s something you want to change; then go ahead, Change it; But don’t change it to be like or for someone else, change it because it betters you and it’s something you want to do.

(((hug s& love)))



Easy Does It

Sometimes we just have to let go and go with the flow;

It’s much easier said that done, but when we get in the obsessive behavior of trying to figure everything out, we will not only cause matters to become worse, we will lose our focus in the process.

Have you ever tried to remember a  character’s name in a particular movie?  You try for days to re-call that name and then finally when you’ve about driven yourself crazy, you just give up,  thinking the answer will never come.  Then one day, out of no where the name just pops into your head.  It’s because you quit trying so hard.  That’s the way life is; we try to figure out what we should or shouldn’t do, we try to figure out all the tiniest of details, only to find ourselves’ moving farther and farther away from what it is we are searching for.

When I get to this place in my life, I just have to “Choose” to believe that God has it under control and in the mean time I also “Choose” to just go with the flow.  Then tension that sets up inside of me, from trying to find the answers, keeps me from enjoying life all together.   So I take a deep breath, say a prayer, and get out there and do something fun; I continue to take care of my responsibilities, but I no longer allow the How’s, What if’s, Should I’s, to rule my life.  I just do the next right thing and choose to go about my life with the “Easy Does It” attitude.  Then before I have even recognized it, just the right door opens, or closes and new opportunities present themselves’ and I am right where I need to be.

Yes it’s hard to approach life with the Easy Does It attitude, but it’s also far less stressful than worrying about every little detail and causing ourselves’ unnecessary stress and tension.  So if it’s just for today, then do it just for today, but try giving yourself a break and take it easy for a while; Your answers will come and no amount of pushing or forcing is going to make them get here any quicker then they are supposed to ; it’s only going to cause you to miss them when they do present themselves’.

(((hugs & love))))



“You’re braver than you believe; Stronger than you seem; And smarter than you think”


Weathering the Storms

There is nothing wrong with feeling sad about something that has or is going on in your life; Actually there’s nothing wrong with feeling sorry for yourself every once in a while; Just don’t unpack and stay in that place for long.  Sometimes I have to make myself get up and do something, no matter how small of a task it may be.  For instance, once when I was going through some very difficult times, I had to force myself to brush my teeth; yes that’s what I said, brush my teeth.  The self-pity had turned into full-blown depression and the task of waking up seemed to often be, more than I could handle.  I am grateful to say that eventually, with the help of friends and family, I was able to crawl out of that dark place; but one thing I am not confused about is that if I don’t continue to do what it is I need to do, spiritually, mentally, & physically, it won’t be long until I am right back in that dark place.

Yes, it’s hard sometimes and pushing myself is not something that comes easy for me.  However, I have noticed that when I just look at one small task, focus on it and not worry about the whole picture; I tend to get more accomplished.  So if you’ve been struggling with being struck, down, or depressed; try taking a very small task and working to accomplish it.  Who knows you might be able to see it through to the end, or even better it may ignite that spark within you that seems to have faded away.

(((hugs & love))))


The “H.O.W.” of the Program

In Recovery, the “H.O.W.’S” of the Program are ; Honesty , Open-mindedness, & Willingness; which hold true not just for those in a 12-Step Program, but life in general.

There are many 12-Step Programs available all across the world today ; from Addiction to Grief, to Co-dependency, to Over-Eaters , and so much more; Whatever the group may be,  the primary focus is on Honesty, Open-mindedness, & Willingness, for without these 3 nothing is going to change.

So whatever you are going through in life, remember that until you are able to get Honest with Yourself, you will be unable to be honest with others; Until you are Open-minded enough to take suggestions from those who want to help, you will remain the same and if you don’t become Willing to do the above, you will never find a new way to live.

Honesty, Open-minded, & Willing are a must , no matter what you are facing in life; for without them, there are no changes and if there are no changes, things remain the same, or they could  get worse.

(((hugs & love)))